Do you feel like your relationship or sex life isn’t quite working?
Like the vision of what you want is different from what you’re coming home to every night?
Most would agree that at the end of the day, our relationships are what bring us the most joy — or pain — in our lives.
But what isn’t as talked about is this:
Our intimate relationships ALSO bring the biggest opportunities for growth and transformation in our lives.
And more importantly, how to seize those opportunities.
what if i told you
It's good that you're fighting. Or not having sex. Or not talking. Or so frustrated with the same darn pattern that you're ready to throw in the towel.
The darkest hour is just before dawn.
THE SAD FATE OF MANY COUPLES
The unfortunate reality is that most couples do not take advantage of these growth opportunities. Instead they stay stuck and become more and more disconnected. They may choose to break up, get a divorce, or stay together but become increasingly miserable.
What’s worse, they wind up feeling not only disconnected from one another, but from themselves. They wind up on some kind of autopilot and wonder where their joy went.
Feeling more and more boxed in.
The saddest part is that many couples actually TRY but still FAIL.
They invest hundreds of hours and and thousands of dollars into therapy, but feel like progress isn’t really being made.
And that’s because great relationships and hot sex don’t come from simply talking about your childhood or learning how to communicate better.
It takes exploring the intersection of your psychology, body pain / tension, and sexuality, to truly heal.
The good news is, this is totally possible. And I’ve got the tools to help you do this.
Hi, I'm Regina
I help brave couples transform conflict, disappointment, and sexual challenges into fulfilling, connected intimacy and personal growth.
I can help you and your partner break out of the vicious cycles you keep getting sucked into, that are so draining.
To me, couples work is the most exciting thing on the planet!
Because to be able to take feelings of stuckness, anger, grief, rejection, boredom, and insecurity, and alchemize them into love, connection, inspiration, and (sometimes) even hot sex.... now that is REAL Magic!!!
MY UNIQUE METHOD FOR COUPLES WORK
I work with couples using a modality called Somatica™ Sex, Relationship, and Intimacy Coaching. It’s like a mix of Somatic Therapy and Sex Therapy.
I combine the Somatica Method with other tools like Tantra, Yoga & Meditation, Spiritual & Energetic Work, Holistic Wellness & Stress Reduction Coaching, and Hakomi Couple’s Counseling.
This potent toolkit helps couples create lasting transformation. It does more than just put a band-aid on the issue or give techniques for how to “manage.” This work will help you heal the root causes. It will bring you closer together emotionally AND help you feel more connected to yourself.
And unlike most methods of therapy, this is what it actually takes to solve sexual challenges.
This is not typical therapy. It’s so much more.
i've helped couples
- Heal from traumas like miscarriage, illness, sexual trauma
- Bring the fun & hotness back to sex . . . even after fertility issues
- Bring sensuality back after decades of being “best friends”
- Learn how to speak each other’s Love Languages
- With Anger Management, Stress Reduction & Chronic Fatigue
- Figure out what type of relationship structure is right for them
- Recover after an affair
- Work through disagreements in parenting styles
- Stop having the same old fights
- Feel more emotionally connected after years of feeling like s/he “isn’t there”
- Helped frustrated men figue out how to actually turn their wives on again
- Helped low-desire women find deeper levels of turn on
- Learn tantra for more spiritually-connected sex
- Navigate erectile dysfunction
- Decide whether to break up or stay together
What Clients Are Saying
Alice & Jim
"At the end of our session when you had us cuddling and breathing together, I felt more connected to him than I have in years." ~ Alice
"When she got upset, I led us in the exercise you taught us, and it calmed her right down! Normally this would have escalated into a huge fight!" ~ Jim
Chris & Carol
"We're doing the eye gazing and sensual touching several times a week now... it's really nice. I can't believe we went so long without touching like this!!" ~ Chris & Carol
Megan & Mike
"I actually can't believe how hot our sex was last week! I'm like... is this my husband?!"~ Megan
"I feel like a freakin teenager! I'm so horny for my wife all the time now! It's kind of ridiculous."~Mike
Kim & Sylvester
"I finally felt comfortable telling my husband about that thing without fear of him judging me. It was great to finally share this major trauma that had happened. And he handled it fine. Your work with us helped." ~Kim
"All these years I was worried that maybe she just wasn't attracted to me or didn't want to be with me. I'm angry that that happened to her but I'm just so glad she finally told me.~Sylvester
is this for you?
If you are in a painful, unsatisfying, or sexually dead relationship with someone you care deeply about, and feel like you are not quite sure how to change things, then you're in the right place.
The top three types of couples I work with are:
- Couples who are great friends, but the intimacy, sex, or physical touch is lacking - either it's not that great, not happening, or causing ongoing tension.
- Couples who have experienced a major challenge or rift in the relationship, and are on the other side, trying to figure out how to move forward.
- Couples who have tried "regular therapy" - either individually or as a couple - but feel like it wasn't that helpful.
Oh, and anyone who reads my website and feels drawn to me, even if they don't quite understand what this is. Usually it's a good fit 😉
My Promise to You
if you choose to work with me, you can count on a therapeutic environment that is:
- Open-Minded, Non-Judgemental, and ***Shame-Free***
- Somatic / Body-Based
- Sex-Positive and literate on Gender, Kink, and Alternative Relationship Styles
- Heart-Centered & Mindfulness-Based
- Touch-Friendly
- Trauma-Literate and Aware of the Impact of Trauma on Sexual Response
let's Chat
If you feel curious about this, let’s have a chat and see what is possible for you.
You can fill out my intake form here to schedule a complimentary consultation or initial session.
Some people report finding value even just from filling out the intake form, as it asks you some questions that help you think more deeply about your situation.
More Client Love
Alan & Natasha
"I had a call with Regina when things were in crisis with Natasha. Talking things through was so valuable.
Instead of breaking up again, we managed to move through this and lovingly resolve this major issue. We set new boundaries and re-defined our relationship in a way that works better for both of us.
Regina was compassionate, honest, insightful and real. I'm super grateful!" ~ Alan
Darius & Lucinda
"I never realized that I've only been able to be deeply attracted--on that primal level-- to random women, and not a girlfriend. That is a huge insight.
I'm up for doing the work of learning how to see Lucinda as sexy and even 'slutty'! LOL" ~ Darius